They don't deserve this!

This article aims to help those who have taken the wrong path to stop going down it. While some may not be able to turn back, at least they will have become aware of their mistake and considered ways to limit the damage in the future.

• If you've already realized your mistake, then there's absolutely no point in rubbing salt in the wound; it might be better for you to get straight to the conclusion. Our goal isn't to reopen your wounds;

• If you are a victim, whether as a child or a woman, then know that one of the most precious gifts we can possess is the capacity to forgive. Indeed, without forgiveness extended to others, we will never be qualified to receive forgiveness from God. If God expects such forgiveness from you, it is because He makes you capable of it; and if you do not feel strong enough or do not even want to, then pray and beseech God to grant you both the will and the ability to forgive;

• If you don't feel directly affected, then know that evil affects some through one of the four means we will discuss, but it could affect you in another way if you are not careful; so let us remain humble before God, who alone preserves us from sin, and before our fellow human beings with whom we share the same nature;

• Finally, if you feel angry, then at least know against whom you should ultimately direct your anger: Satan. Let us pray together for those whom the evil one continues to blind!

The article addresses four topics, all related to FAMILY:

• Children whose lives are cut short before they are even born;

• Children born out of wedlock due to the burning desire for motherhood of some girls or women;

• Girls and women whose vulnerability is exploited by men who seduce and use them, rather than asking for their hand in marriage;

• Families (wives and children) whose heads of household have ceased to assume their responsibilities.

God's work interrupted
Through several biblical passages, God makes it clear that He formed us in the womb. David (Psalms 139:13), Jeremiah (Jeremiah 1:5) and Job  (Job 31:15) attest to this, at least in their respective cases. We were all created by God. And this didn't happen spontaneously on the day of our birth, but God took care to weave us together day after day in the womb. Some “wise men”, now driven mad, claim in the name of “science” that these children are not yet fully human, but the Bible is clear: God is weaving them together. And how presumptuous it is to attempt to interrupt God's life within these children. Just because we want to save our reputation, we want to continue “enjoying” the pleasures of life, even if it means interrupting the existence of another, an innocent being. Oh, may God grant us the understanding that the voluntary termination of a pregnancy is not only an attack on the life of an innocent person, but a true affront, a battle against one's Creator: God Himself; in that we violently oppose His creative work, we audaciously interrupt His generative work. If you have already gone through this, then, my sister, God is willing to forgive you, provided you sincerely repent; but if you are on the verge of committing such a crime, then beware of God's punishment: You have been doubly warned!

A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows
In our society, God intended for the balance of the family to be structured around the parents, with the father at its center. However, in His sovereignty, He reserved the right to remove the head of the family “early”. God assures us that in such cases, He Himself will take over from the father. He will become the provider and defender of the widow and the fatherless (Psalms 68:5) That is why He blesses those who bless them and is severe with those who oppress them. God is sovereign and He will always fill any need that arises in our lives, but which He has allowed in His sovereignty. He is God and He is able to do all things. On the other hand, if you are a girl, whether advanced in age or not, and have taken it upon yourself, because of your desire for motherhood, to allow yourself to give birth outside of marriage, outside the family framework, then you are doing wrong! You are harming yourself, but also this child who has done no harm to come into the world in such conditions. Who will care for this family you're creating, going against the path God established for this purpose? Can you do it on your own? Without God's help, whom you're already turning against yourself? Our God “takes responsibility” when He calls back a father who leaves his family “fatherless”, but who will take responsibility for you? Beyond bread (food) and security, both child and mother need the human authority that God intended to establish through the husband and father. But what is your plan? And this is without even mentioning the insults that might be hurled at your offspring. We are trying here to outline the disadvantages of following a path other than God's; however, the first and main disadvantage of going against the divine will is simply disobeying God, the Creator!

So, my dear sister, if this is your situation, you cannot turn back time; but you can decide not to conceive in the future under such circumstances. God's arms are wide open if you are sincerely repentant! However, this is a warning cry if you were about to embark on this path of error. God is aware of your needs, but also of your urges, desires, or maternal instincts; after all, since He created you, He knows what you are made of. Simply give yourself to Him. And trust Him for the rest of your life!

The weaker vessel
The Bible tells us that ADAM was not seduced, but the WOMAN (note that he does not say “Eve”). Paul says this in a context where he wants to emphasize the “weakness” of woman compared to Man (1 Timothy 2:14). Elsewhere, Peter asks husbands to treat their wives with the awareness that they are of the weaker vessel (1 Peter 3:7). It's not about men being "macho," but we must consider that women are more susceptible to being seduced by men, or even by evil, than by men. But the evil, or rather the tragedy, is that men who are aware of this, instead of protecting the women they encounter, are more like vultures, veritable predators. They take advantage of their vulnerability to seduce them, to use them as they please, even going so far as to derive a perverse pleasure from counting the number of women whose virginity they have destroyed; considering the number a trophy, a number that nevertheless speaks against their own souls. This is wicked, this is cruel, this is satanic in inspiration! We all know that it's wrong to abuse a child's naiveté, but abusing a woman's vulnerability isn't very different. The common denominator is the abuse of someone else's vulnerability. Don't take comfort in the idea that you have stronger sexual urges than women. If God allowed it, it's so that we can honor our wives and remind ourselves, when we might be arrogant, that we need them; it's certainly not to chase after a stranger, a girl who isn't our wife. My brother, if you have been a sexual wanderer until now, or even if you've limited yourself to just one girl who wasn't your wife, you have sinned against God and against her, because as a man, you were supposed to protect women, not exploit their weaknesses. So put an end to this affair, to this lifestyle! Trust in God, who will give you a wife in due time if you don't already have one. But to have His support, you must sincerely repent of the life you've led and resolutely commit to following God!

Lack of wisdom
It is common knowledge that being the head of a family is not always easy; the challenges are often severe: disrespect from a wife, disobedience from children, not to mention the violence of the society in which one must find a way to provide for their needs. However, these difficulties, which we unfortunately tend to exaggerate when we are facing hardship, will never be sufficient to justify, whatever they may be, a father abandoning his responsibilities as head of the family. The Bible tells us that a Christian who doesn't provide for his own house is worse than an infidel, that is, worse than someone who has never been a Christian (1 Timothy 5:8). God says this because He has instilled in every person's heart the awareness of the duty to care for their own. This is why Christ himself could say that people, despite their evilness, give their children food when they ask for it (Luke 11:11-13). God goes even further when speaking to us about the ostrich. He helps us understand that if the ostrich can expose her eggs to the ground, warming them in the dust, risking them being crushed by a wild animal, it is because God has deprived her wisdom. He has not given her understanding; therefore, she is not concerned about the fact her labor may be in vain (Job 39:13-17). Thus, caring for one's offspring is a wisdom that God has bestowed upon even the animals, of which the ostrich is but one of the rare exceptions. So let us not be more than “evil”  let us not stoop to the level of the ostrich.

The goal is not to offend anyone, but to draw everyone's attention. My brother, if this has been your life so far, then rise up; it's not too late! Be a valiant head of the family. The promise you made to that young woman at your wedding remains valid, even though she has grown older, even though she has often acted like a weaker vessel. Provide a model of perseverance for your children in your relationship with each of them. To achieve this, you will need the Lord Jesus Christ to be your strength. And if you were on the verge of giving up your responsibilities, my dear friend, you need God just as much to give you renewed courage!

Conclusion
The family is central to God's plan for humanity, and is therefore a priority target for evil, who seeks to destroy people before they are even born, to ruin the lives of others through the illegitimate conditions of their conception; to destroy the virginity and sexuality of young girls before they have even experienced marriage; or to cause heads of families to abdicate their responsibility as pillars of strength. It's possible you've fallen into one of these traps, but if God has protected you, then give Him thanks; it is by His strength that you escaped. To have a better life right now, not only within your family but in all aspects of your life, you need God, who is the Source of life. He alone knows your needs perfectly, better than you do yourself. He alone knows which ones are the most urgent. He alone knows perfectly what He would want your life to have looked like at the end of your days. So, if you share my opinion, please consider this prayer carefully, and if you agree with it, use it as inspiration to formulate your own prayer, resolutely committing yourself to following God in all His ways, whatever difficulties you may encounter. Then, trust Him to guide every aspect of your life: marriage, career, and so on, but above all, to learn from Him how to always please Him!

Eternal God, thank you for letting me know how much I was a target of evil,

• Thank you for enlightening me about the horror of the sexual sins I have committed so far and some of their terrible consequences (If you do not feel directly concerned by one of the 4 points in this article, then please go directly to the second to last bullet point)

• (Read this line only if you have had abortions) Forgive me for every murder I have committed of my own volition, by my own decision. I beg You, O Eternal God...

• (If you have been a sexually active boy) Forgive me, my God, for each of the girls and women I have seduced; and for each of them I have even deflowered; forgive these acts of wickedness, O Eternal God.

• (If you have been a sexually active girl) Forgive me for being seduced, forgive me for not following Your path, forgive me for dishonoring my parents with my sexual life, I beg You, O my God.

• (Man or woman, if you had a child out of wedlock, an unwanted child, use the plural if referring to multiple children) Forgive me for the harm I have caused my child in my disordered life by conceiving him/her out of wedlock. My God, I am deeply sorry for the consequences of my sin, and I beg You to grant me Your Wisdom and Your Grace so that I may raise him/her according to Your ways. In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ!

• (Woman, if you had a child out of wedlock voluntary, use the plural if referring to multiple children.) Forgive me for the harm I have caused my child through my selfishness, for I disregarded what was best for him. Forgive me for simply wanting to satisfy my own desires. I regret this selfish attitude toward my own child, O my God! Please grant me Your Wisdom and Your Grace to know how to raise him according to Your ways. And may I succeed, I pray You, O my God! In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ!

• (Husband, if you have had to resign from your responsibilities as head of the family) My God, forgive me for my wickedness, forgive me for my weariness. I refuse to offer any excuse to justify my sin, I refuse to accuse anyone, I refuse to blame life's difficulties! Forgive my sin, O Eternal God, against my wife (or wives, if you have more than one, though you must add no more). Forgive my sin against each of my children, I beg you, Eternal God, Most Holy!

• (If you don't feel directly concerned by one of the four points addressed in the article) Eternal, Most Holy God, I sincerely thank you for the many sins and misfortunes you have spared me. However, I ask your forgiveness for the sexual sins I have committed in thought, even though you have kept me from acting on them. Forgive my sins, O Most Holy God, in your grace!

• Whatever my failings may have been, Eternal Almighty God, in my sexuality and family life, I ask Your forgiveness for them, Eternal God, but I also ask Your forgiveness for all the other sins I have committed in other aspects of my life. I implore Your forgiveness. Please make me Your child now. I will no longer live according to my desires, my moods, my lusts, or my fears, but I will live according to You, my God, according to Your Word alone! Grant me Your Light and Your Strength to achieve this, please, Eternal Most Holy God! In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ!

Amen !