Single and pregnant
You had chosen to treat yourself to a night of pleasure with this man who was the object of your fantasies,
But you didn't know that on that day, you would conceive a new being,
God in His Sovereignty not being subject to our human plans,
The child was now on its way,
And a thousand worries raced through your mind …
“Should I have spared the life of this child, innocent though he may be, but arriving at the 'wrong' time?”
“What would my family and friends say, especially my parents, on whom I would be casting as a disgrace?”
But after careful consideration, you chose to fear God, to respect the life He placed within you,
There was no question of committing murder; the choice was made to face the scornful stares, to face the mocking laughter, to accept, if necessary, the abandonment of those who had been close to you until then.
You were then seen as a girl whose pregnancy heightened the intensity of a supposedly overflowing sexual activity,
Certainly, you regretted your extramarital sexual acts, but adding murder to them was out of the question,
Today the child is born, and while some may have come to better feelings, you can still sense in the hearts of many that the respect and consideration they once held for you are no longer the same and may even have completely vanished.
I have good news for you …
Believe me, the Lord is proud of you, not of the life that led you to this child born out of wedlock, but of the dignified and noble attitude you have shown following this conception. We live in a world where more and more people are preoccupied with their image in the eyes of others rather than the state of their hearts before God. Also, through this praiseworthy act, God wants to give you the opportunity to resolutely change your life and regain your dignity, your nobility, but no longer before Men, but God the Father and all his sons on Earth.
Simply acknowledge your past life, your sexual sins, but also other sins of various kinds. Express to Him your deep regret for each one and beg Him to forgive you and give you His peace. Commit yourself from now on to live only for His glory and to please Him. The Lord, aware of your material and emotional needs, will take care of you in due timee.
Almost menopausal and pregnant
You've been married for a very long time,
You were convinced you were done with motherhood…
Until one day, 10, 15 years after your last child was born, you noticed surprising changes in your body,
It wasn't a fibroid… no, God spared you from that disease,
But it was indeed a child, the divine calendar not being yours,
It was at that precise moment that your last child was to be born,
The one for whom the Lord had unusual plans.
Although married, you and your husband had doubts.
What would your couple friends say?
How would society view you now?
But these potentially degrading looks did not lead you to outrage God.
You chose to honor the Lord rather than fear the judgment of others,
You owed nothing to people,
But you owed God the life He had given you, the children He had already given you.
How could you have outraged Him by rejecting them on the pretext that He hadn't given them at the “right” time?
You chose to honor the Lord and Sovereign God.
For this, the Creator God is proud of you,
Proud to know that if you know how to receive what you have asked for, you also know how to receive what you have not asked for,
Proud that you know how to accept what He, God, sees fit to give you,
Proud that you know how to accept the time when He sees fit to entrust you with this new responsibility.
However, beyond this child,
It is Christ himself whom God wants to bring into your life.
Yes, you are not criminals.
Yes, you are not unworthy parents since you chose to keep this child.
Yes, you are parents who earn their bread with dignity, by the sweat of your brow.
Yes, you are proud to be able to serve as a model of dignity for your offspring.
Yes, in many ways, your life already seems to suit you as it is.
Only, God has another plan for you…
God created us so that we might lead a life that not only honors Him, but is also entirely devoted to Him. He says it in these terms:
“Who is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of every creature : For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him”
Yes, God created us by Christ and for Christ, and it is for Him that we are called to live; indeed, whatever we do apart from Him, we cannot be pleasing to God, who finds His pleasure only in Him.
“While he yet spake, behold, a bright cloud overshadowed them: and behold a voice out of the cloud, which said, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased; hear ye him”
“And lo a voice from heaven, saying, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.”
At least three times in Scriptures, God testifies to His Son (see also John 12: 28-30); but we note clearly that from His Baptism onward, God shows us why we must listen to Him: He is His beloved Son, in whom He is well pleased. So, regardless of how exemplary your life may be, God has only one Word for all humanity: we must listen to his Christ. And what is his message? The salvation of our souls, a life that is pleasing to God, not because of its exemplary nature, but because it is lived through Christ, the only one whom God approves of.
I invite you to pray, asking God for forgiveness for the pride in which you were steeped; not realizing that by your very human nature you were a sinner and desperately needed a Savior like everyone else. Implore God's forgiveness for all your sins, whether you remember them or not; commit yourself to following Him no longer based on your own morality but on His divine Word, and call upon Him so that, through His Holy Spirit, He may lead you to live a life pleasing to God the Father.
Failed test
It's possible you missed the opportunity presented by the trial God allowed you to face when He placed a child in your womb that you didn't want. We won't say it's nothing, but that all is not lost. The devil led you to commit murder, that's a fact; but the worst thing would be for him to lead you to a second murder: that of yourself. Just as your child didn't belong to you but to God, so too you don't belong to yourself but to God. So, giving in to endless remorse, refusing to envision life outside of despair, is a form of renouncing life. It's choosing, to a certain extent, to no longer live.
On the other hand, if you have tried to take control of your life and haven't been able to, then that's normal; because indeed, only the Lord Jesus Christ is Life. We are all guilty of murder, adultery, and various other sins, as it is written:
“Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. […] Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his hear.”
While it may be easier to forgive ourselves when we limit ourselves to sins of thought, God invites us to see everything as He sees it. Every sin is serious in God's eyes, whether committed in thought or deed. Likewise, for every sin He forgives us, we must accept His peace, regardless of whether we committed it in thought or deed. Furthermore, God does not offer His forgiveness temporary; He does not remove a stain from our lives, He transforms them completely. Therefore, His forgiveness can only be granted if we are resolved to follow Him from now on, not just in our sexual lives, but in every aspect of our existence. If this is your heart's disposition, then you can pray with me in this way…
Ask God for forgiveness for all your sins: abortions and other sins in thought or deed. Express your deep regret to Him. Thank Him for Christ, whose shed blood provides for your salvation. Beg Him to forgive you every sin and to restore you to His divine plan for your life (that He may once again fulfill His divine plans of peace for your life). Remind Him that you do this in the name of Christ Jesus. And beg Him to bless you by leading you into the midst of His children, people who fear Him and live according to the doctrine of Christ, as recorded in the Scriptures; people among whom you will persevere in your new life.
Amen!
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